亞洲輔導學報



中國儒家思想有關「理想」家庭的看法︰個人及家庭輔導的一些啟示

2000.第7卷第2期(Vol. 7 No. 2).pp. 85–104
 

中國儒家思想有關「理想」家庭的看法︰個人及家庭輔導的一些啟示

Conceptions of an Ideal Family in Confucian Thoughts: Implications for Individual and Family Counseling

石丹理、賴敏飛(Daniel T. L. SHEK & Man-Fei LAI)

摘要

本文嘗試描述儒家思想中有關理想家庭的一些概念。在儒家文獻中,理想家庭的特質包括:(1)父慈子孝、兄友弟恭、夫婦和順,家庭成員根據五倫關係,順從關係裏地位較高者;(2)家庭和諧、避免爭吵;(3)家人克己,不隨便流露感情;(4)家人互相忍耐和忍讓;(5)齊家。本文將會探討這些傳統概念對現代輔導(特別是家庭輔導)的一些啟示。

Abstract

This paper attempts to examine the conceptions of an ideal family in Confucian thoughts. Based on an extensive review of the literature, several characteristics of an ideal family in Confucian thoughts are identified. These include (1) "fu ci zi xiao, xiong you di gong, fu chi her shuen" (the father is affectionate and the son is dutiful, the elder brother is friendly and the younger brother shows respect, the husband-wife relationship is smooth and harmonious), (2) harmonious relationships among family members and avoidance of conflict, (3) avoidance of expression of feelings, particularly those negative ones, (4) mutual forbearance and tolerance, and (5) good order and management of the family. The implications of traditional Confucian thoughts of an ideal family on contemporary counseling, particularly family counseling, are discussed.