Asian Journal of Counselling

Extramarital Affairs: Counselling of the Noninvolved Spouse

1996.第4卷第1及2期(Vol. 4 Nos. 1 & 2).pp. 101–109

Extramarital Affairs: Counselling of the Noninvolved Spouse


Phoebe CHAN


This paper examines the reasons for extramarital affairs. A developmental theoretical model and therapeutic framework is proposed by the author to work with noninvolved spouses in the treatment process, and the relevant therapeutic techniques are discussed. Counselling of the noninvolved spouse can be very helpful in dealing with issues of one's identity and self-esteem. The resolution and consolidation of one's identity and the restoration of self-esteem need to be accomplished if one wants to overcome the immediate crisis of the extramarital affair. A case example is used to illustrate the therapeutic procedures.